Why counseling?

Ideally, we are supposed to grow up with loving and protective parents that are curious about who we really are. They nurture and support us. They teach us how to protect ourselves, how to take care of ourselves.

Our caregivers’ voices become our internal voice.

If that talk was negative, we internalize that as a way of protecting ourselves. So if you have a caregiver that is overly critical, cold, or just downright abusive, their voice became your self-talk. But you can change it!

Our caregivers are supposed to create an emotional reserve and build our resiliency and sense of personal power. If that doesn’t happen, we are running on empty. Therapy can help replenish that energy so that you are stronger and more resilient for when other people or the outside world prove to be challenging.

In some ways, it was helpful and adaptive for us to internalize that voice- if we could see what was coming, if we could see what our caregivers or parents would be critical or mad about a head of time, we could ‘do’ something to avoid their wrath. This gives us a false sense of control and autonomy.

An EMDR and trauma-informed approach to therapy helps you identify the messages that are no longer serving you in your life. We can learn to listen less to the critic and start cheering ourselves on. You can start nurturing and protecting yourself in effective ways that actually allow you to grow and make sustainable changes.

Therapy can help shift self-talk, this helps increase your energy, power and self-compassion. If we can learn to offer ourselves empowerment and love, we have more resiliency to be able to handle outside stressors with more skill.

When we are running on empty, we don’t have access to the part of our brain that can stay calm even if we are experiencing sadness, anger or fear. However, there are ways that can help grow this reserve.

Setting better boundaries (saying no even if it is uncomfortable for example)
Expressing gratitude towards ourselves and others, learning how to speak to ourselves in kinder ways
Taking care of our bodies, hearts, minds and spirits

Those are some ways that we can increase our resilience, cultivate a sense of awareness and calm even when we are in conflict and under stress.

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